Compatibility is a little more complicated than chemistry. Being compatible means having similar interests, values, philosophies or complimenting lifestyles. It can be your parenting styles or compatible libidos. It can be easy to confuse the two. You can have chemistry with someone and not have compatibility and vice versa. Some examples:. You may be an introvert and they may be an extrovert.
You might be great at saving money and they have trouble managing their money. It could also be different religious views, political views, etc. If these differences cause issues or reoccurring problems, this is an example of having chemistry with someone but not being compatible.
You may even have a lot in common with them yet you do not feel romantically or sexually drawn to them. So, the question is, can you have a healthy romantic relationship with someone with just one? Can you just have chemistry without compatibility or vice versa? Because relationships, just like people, are unique. But many argue that compatibility outweighs chemistry. This type of partnership can only be achieved if you have compatibility with someone. Chemistry can help you weather the storms of life but compatibility enables you to set goals and find shared meaning in your relationship.
Although many would argue that compatibility is the most important aspect of a relationship, chemistry is powerful too. And without chemistry, would we even get to the part where we check for compatibility? While chemistry is the desire to go towards someone, AH says compatibility is what makes us want to stay there. Scot suggests trying this exercise:. Ultimately, AH notes that chemistry and compatibility can—and do—coexist, and make for wonderful relationships.
But time is often an important deciding factor in seeing if things will last. Oh hi! Enter Email Address. Your official excuse to add "OOD" ahem, out of doors to your cal. Become an Insider. OK, so before we get into what the personality traits of a morning person appear to be, let's first touch on what chronotypes are. As far as chronotypes go, they basically break down into four different categories that have the names of animals:.
In order to learn more about chronotypes and what they entail, the blog Casper has a great read on it here also, if you want to take a quiz to find out what type you are, click here. The reason why it can be a good idea to get to know that your personal chronotype is, is because it can give you greater insight into why your days naturally go the way that they do. It can also help you to better understand what kind of "tweaking" you would need to implement if you happen to want to be more productive during your early morning hours even if it's just temporarily.
OK, so now that you get why you may naturally or naturally not be a morning type of person, let's explore what the personality of a morning person is like. Aight, so with that ah-ha moment for some being out of the way, what are the traits of a morning kind of individual?
I mean, really — what is it about a person who can jump out of bed singing, having a burst of energy and being so optimistic before the day even officially begins that roosters are even giving them a perpetual side-eye?
When I thought about this from the angle of some of the married clients that I work with, I can definitely cosign on this. One couple, in particular, that I've worked with before, the husband is an engineer and the wife is in the entertainment industry. He is definitely an early morning person while she is a night owl and when I think about how they approach life, he is so Type A conscientious and self-disciplined that it can almost be suffocating.
Meanwhile, for example, he's not even a good flyer he's pretty close to being afraid to fly while his wife travels for a living and doesn't give it much of a second thought open-minded, thrill-seeking. If it wasn't for him being so over-the-top with his disciplined lifestyle especially financially , I'm pretty sure she'd be close to flat broke; meanwhile, if it wasn't for her "hey, let's try it" outlook on life, he would be boring — and limited — as hell.
Bottom line, there is nothing wrong with being a morning person — or not being one. There are benefits and advantages to both. Now what I will say about morning people is it's a lot easier to get a lot more done when you're up in the wee hours of the day and knocking out a lot of what needs to be done. Not only that but a lot of the morning folks who I personally know tend to be less stressed because they oftentimes get so much done before noon.
That's why, even if you're not a morning person, I am in full support of you at least considering getting up earlier, a couple of days a week, in order to make the most of your time. And just how do you do that? Again, there's nothing wrong with not being a morning person. Still, if there is a part of you that knows you would be better off being more conscientious and self-disciplined so that you can get more out of your own morning time, here are some ways to make that happen.
Get on a sleep schedule. How crazy is it that a lot of us think kids should be on a sleep schedule, but we shouldn't? Because the CDC even says that grown folks should get no less than seven hours of sleep every night, so that you can be more alert and refreshed come sunrise, and because that is so much easier to do when you have your own nighttime routine, you definitely should put yourself on a sleep schedule.
Sleep earlier. Awaken earlier. Out of all of the hacks to help you become more of a morning person, this one might be my favorite because it's so easy to implement. Basically, if you want to wake up 30 minutes earlier, it's probably best to go to bed 30 minutes earlier as well.
That way, the extra zzz's that you're missing on the back end, you can get on the front. Nix the naps. However, I'm also someone who enjoys sleeping like it's Six Flags or something. Watch what you eat and drink. Have mercy, Lawd. Why am I finally at that age where drinking something an hour before bed will get me up twice in the middle of the night, making it harder to go to sleep?
Have sex. I'm not sure what can make you sleep better and harder than having some good sex before turning in. From a scientific standpoint, orgasms have the ability to reduce your stress levels while also producing the hormones oxytocin and prolactin in your system.
Both of these work together in order to mellow you out, put you in a good mood and also make you feel safe and secure with your partner —and all of these are the foundation of a great night's rest. That's why sex before going to sleep can improve your quality of sleep. And morning sex can inspire you to set your alarm clock 30 minutes earlier so that you can get out of bed with a big smile on your face. Hell, who said it had to be either or? Why not both? Give yourself something to look forward to every morning.
Let me tell it, what I just said in the point above this should count as something to look forward to; however, if sex isn't on the docket for whatever the reason , still try and give yourself a reason to want to wake up earlier — a favorite breakfast food, time to read a chapter of a book or listen to your favorite podcast, a few minutes to catch up with a friend…anything that can make raising your head off of your pillow not the top thing on your list to do the following morning.
I know we kinda covered a lot of ground here — what are chronotypes of sleepers, what are the traits of morning people and how to become more of a morning person yourself. Yet I hope that the greatest takeaway is 1 morning people are oftentimes born more than made; 2 their ability to be morning people resonates in more than their sleeping patterns because I don't know about you but most of the morning people that I know are extremely self-disciplined and 3 you can create ways to enjoy the morning more than you might think.
It's all about choosing to not view the early hours as your "enemy" but as a way to make the most of your time — from sunrise to sunset. For more inspiration, self-care, and healing tips, check out xoNecole's Wellness section here. On any given day, no matter my destination, you can find me in at least one article of men's clothing, specifically suiting.
When I'm not wearing an oversized vintage blazer, then I'll be more than likely layering a men's button up as a substitute for a lightweight jacket. What I love most about menswear is the overall comfort and not being confined to material that restricts my range of motion. Also, being tall and curvy , it's sometimes impossible to get that oversized feel when shopping within the women's department. Over the years, I've gotten my hands on a plethora of blazers and button downs, even men's trousers in many different colors and prints but lately I've embraced suiting with a more feminine approach.
With men's suiting, there's only so many styles that are available. Mostly designed with classic silhouettes, this fall, I want to embrace more trendy and stylish pieces in line with the modern masculine twist that I love so much. Keep scrolling to check out these menswear-inspired looks that are all woman. The moment I saw this blazer, I knew I had to have it. Perfect to catch an evening drink with the girls or a night out with bae, this outfit is not only chic but incredibly comfortable as well.
Beyond its super stylish twisted knot detail and trendy side cut-outs, it's the perfect color for fall. Keeping it seasonally appropriate, I paired a slim black leather pant and matching mules for a professional yet sultry look.
I couldn't forget my accessories, so I went with a two-toned gold linked chain necklace along with a tortoise print acrylic box bag to complete this look. Owning my fair share of classic white button downs, I went on the hunt to find a more feminine style that embodied my favorite trends. Opting for this dress because of its bold front cut-out, I loved that it's not your everyday outfit. Perfect for transitional weather, I wanted to go for a more subtle approach, opting for a brown square toe mule.
When worn during cooler weather or at night, this look can easily be worn with an oversized blazer and boots. First things first, a black wide leg trouser is a must-have in every woman's closet.
To add more depth to such a dark look, I decided on the addition of prints with an abstract bodysuit layered underneath a men's oversized pinstripe jacket. Pairing a slim gold chain belt for a subtle pop of color along with a brown and black python print bag, this added the perfect minor details to this oversized look. To get your fashion fix and to stay up to date with the latest trends, check out the xoNecole Style section here. Nzinga Imani is a name you may want to get familiar with.
She is an actress, the owner of Nimani Boutique , a singer, and a plus-sized model who has wowed fans with her talent on social media and TV. The first-generation Guyanase-American beauty has even addressed the criticism she has faced online for displaying her body and even spoke out about TikTok flagging her videos because of it.
However, Nzinga has remained positive and continues spreading her light across social media. Besides landing TV roles on a major network, the actress just released her collab with popular online fashion boutique Fashion to Figure. Nzinga Imani: It feels incredible. It feels affirming. It's everything I've been working toward these past several years. I decided a long time ago that I wanted to pursue acting , and it's been a steady climb ever since consistently working and being able to do what I love.
There's nothing better than that—to see progression in the field—because as much as I've worked, a lot of times it felt like roadblocks were put up. I'd get somewhere and then the project would be sidelined or I think I'm cast in a lead in a major production that's funded by this network and that network, and then they table the entire show even after we've filmed it.
So, there's so many times that you'll think that you're moving forward and then the roadblock will hit, but it's in some ways connected to where you're supposed to be. I knew that the scene was nude when I auditioned for it. The moment I auditioned for it, I had some reservations for maybe five seconds and then I was like, 'Hey, it's an audition.
I'm just gonna submit and see what happens. Although they allowed me to audition for it, I still wasn't sure once they got the tape and physically if they would still [be] interested in using me.
But I just had fun with the audition, and when they told me I got it, it was a little shocking, but I also knew I had killed that audition because it was a fun one. I absolutely knew that it was going to be a game-changer. I know, for myself, seeing all these shows and seeing how there's more and more nude scenes on television, a lot of the times, it's the stereotypical body that they show.
But when we show that in the media, it's not reflective of what the reality is. You just see a bunch of what they consider perfect type bodies on screen. I had seen someone who was just barely plus-sized before in a sex scene, and I knew how much that meant to me to see her even though she doesn't really represent me or my culture, and she didn't look like me.
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